We have learned that the breakdown of a relationship is the time to reflect and change. We know that we should behave with dignity and keep certain feelings and emotions to ourselves when they are deemed inappropriate to get out in public places. We also know that we should publicly wish our exes well to show that we are the more mature party. We also know that crying uncontrollably is something that is best left to the pillow at night, and screaming drunks are not a good look.

It’s funny though – we all know how we SHOULD react once a relationship has broken down, but how many of us actually behave in the correct manner? In fact, what is the correct manner?

You shouldn’t stand outside of your ex’s window at night singing, drunk. Remember that episode of Sex and the City where Carrie’s recovering alcoholic becomes addicted to sex with her and she has to part ways? He embarrassed himself and her with his behavior. That is a classic example of how not to react. It doesn’t have to be outside her window either. It might even be worth you not hitting the drink for a while. Seeing her inside the club dancing with another guy is going to get you in a fight, (also not acceptable breakup behavior) and seeing her outside with the girls is going to result with you screaming the entire neighborhood down with your less than polite description of her sexual performance.

Getting drunk seems to be the modern way of breaking up these days, and although a few beers with your friends drowning your sorrows can help for a little while, getting badgered and making an ass out of yourself is not a good look.

Sleeping around – definite no, no! Do you have any idea how sleazy you are when you do that? You may want to get as many notches in your bedpost as you can, but not only do you look trashy to your ex, you look trashy to the rest of the population as well. You WILL give yourself a bad reputation.

Putting down your ex all around town – definitely not cool. If you ever want to have the chance to reunite with your ex, you DO NOT do this. Again, you will give yourself a bad reputation and no one will want to come near you, and secondly no one would believe the things that you were saying anyway. You were going through a breakup. You probably didn’t mean it.

Keeping their stuff – this is just plain uncomfortable. Give it back or else you will look crazy. Do those old socks really mean that much to you that you would rather look like an idiot than give them back? Technically you are stealing them – this is a breakup, not an episode of Sons of Anarchy.

As  Magic of Making Up shows, there are plenty of sides to every breakup. Sleeping around, putting down your ex, getting drunk and crying or shouting at them is just the tip of the iceberg. Perhaps it’s time to investigate further and get some expert advice to help you through your unique situation with a program that gives you that advice in the comfort of your own home.

Congratulations ladies – you made it through your breakup and made up on the other side. You found the gold pot at the end of the rainbow. You managed what so many ladies out there can’t manage. You got your ex back.

What happens now?

Now you’ve got to learn how to read the signs. You’ve got to understand what he’s really saying. You need to learn that what he says is not always what he means, and what he means isn’t always what he says.

You are both sat on the couch. You are talking but he can’t take his eyes off the TV and you get the impression that he’s not really listening to you. What does this mean? It means stop talking. Everyone needs a little downtime and his just happens to be right now, watching that TV show. Give him a few minutes and let him watch his show. Once it has finished, try again. You don’t like being disturbed when you are doing your makeup, and he just happens to want downtime right now. If he does it every night, you may have a problem, but if it’s just once in a while let him have it.

You guys are talking about something you are disagreeing on and all of a sudden he stops talking and doesn’t start up again. It’s as if he has gone completely mute. What does this mean? It means he is stone-walling. When a chick has a deep conversation about something she feels passionate about, a hormone is released called oxytocin which works with her estrogen to create a balanced and calming feeling. In the guy, the oxytocin is released and his testosterone will stop it in its tracks. This is his way of overcoming a difficult situation to carry on through. Imagine the caveman going after the buffalo to feed his children after the buffalo has beaten him to the ground and moved on. He feels uncomfortable right now and his hormones have shut him down. You either need to change your tactic or leave him alone for a while. It’s not his fault – it’s his hormones.

He touched another woman’s arm during a conversation at the bar. He swears he doesn’t remember it and if it did happen, it meant nothing. To you, he was flirting with her. Why did he do this? What does this mean? It means that something may be a problem. Although touching is a common reaction when you are in deep conversation with someone, experts suggest that a man touching a woman anywhere below the elbow is within the danger zone. Repeated touching should also be frowned upon. If this is happening, you may want to consider how serious he was about this makeup.

Learning to read his body language and the things he says and does is s a sure fire way to save a broken relationship or a broken heart. Magic of Making Up not only deals with the breakup and getting your ex back, it also deals with how to make things better after the breakup. And let’s be honest; we could probably all use a helping hand on that!

It’s all very good and well getting the girl with all of your wit and charm, how the hell are you going to keep her interested once you’ve caught her? Soon you are going to run out of the wit and charm that won her over in the good old days, and when this day happens there is a good chance that she is going to lose interest. Thankfully, these ten top tips should point you in the right direction to keep her entertained.

1. Give yourself a signature scent. Why? Well, she is soon going to associate you with this scent and every time she smells it, it will remind her of you. She could be at a club with a hundred other guys surrounding her, but as soon as she smells your signature scent she is going to think back to you.
2. Kiss like a pro! Bad kisses can be swept under the carpet at the beginning of a relationship but after a while your bad technique is just going to bore her. Ask her if she likes the way you kiss during a sexy night in and see if she gives you pointers or directions. Good kisses will always keep a gal coming back for more.
3. Don’t be too readily available. If you have plans and she asks you to hang out, tell her you have plans. Being too nice to her will not win your brownie points; it will just put you in the friend zone. Keep it plain and simple – if you are busy, be busy. If you are not, she will have missed you and want more. Just try to get an even balance on the two.
4. Don’t turn into a slob. Seeing you nice and preened right at the beginning of your relationship has given her some high standards and if you let these slide, she is going to notice. At least maintain basic levels of hygiene – showering, brushing your teeth, wearing clean clothes etc.
5. Talk about the stuff she likes! We don’t mean that you should talk about her stuff all the time, but just asking her about the things she actually enjoys will keep the spark alive. Try it sometimes – you’ll be surprised at what cool stuff you can learn!
6. Don’t give it all up right at the beginning. Let things slip out naturally over the course of your relationship. The more you reveal, the less you will have later on down the road. Keep certain things guarded – let her peel back the layers, so to speak.
7. Take charge! Some men are just too much of a gentleman to keep the girls interest. Take charge and make the plans for once! The ladies know that the guys are just trying to let them call the shots but sometimes they just want to hear the words – “Hey babe, we’re going to Nandos. Dress casual.”
8. Be respectful still. You can play fight and make fun at each other until the cow’ come home if you want to, but still be respectful towards each other. Hold the door open and grab her chair for her from time to time. You’ll be surprised at what a gesture can achieve.
9. Live outside of the box from time to time. Be spontaneous. Call in sick at work just so you can make her breakfast in bed one day. Plan a trip for the weekend on Friday. Get her random gifts just because you can.
10. Don’t just be hers. Sometimes a guy just needs to live his own life, so tying in somewhat with tip number three – don’t be too readily available. Have YOUR life and enjoy YOUR interests. Just because the two of you are together doesn’t mean that you can’t have separate lives from time to time!

If you’re still looking for more information on how to keep her interested,  Magic of Making Up can offer you the expert and detailed insight you’re looking for.

If you feel like she doesn’t love you anymore then chances are that you’re right. As much as Cosmo loves to go on about a lot guys being clueless when it comes to women, common sense almost always prevail and it doesn’t take a genius to know that something doesn’t seem right.

You could just ask her what’s going on, but if she herself is still confused as to how she feels and where she wants the relationship to go, then you’re probably going to be told that “everything’s fine”. To help you figure out whether or not she is in fact losing interest, here is a list of 10 telltale signs that she doesn’t love you anymore. Sometimes it takes an outside source to point it out because we want so desperately to not see it ourselves.

Have a look at these signs she doesn’t love you anymore and see how many strike a chord. It could just give you the clarity you need.

1. She stops showing you affection in and out of the bedroom.

2. She becomes very busy all of a sudden, leaving little to no time for you and the relationship.

3. She stops attending family functions with you as well as other events that are important to you.

4. She no longer asks about your day and shows little interest in what you’re doing.

5. She can no longer be bothered to argue back or defend herself because she doesn’t care enough.

6. She stops putting effort into you and the relationship, from not dressing up to not making plans.

7. She shows no signs of jealousy when it comes to other women though she once used to.

8. She doesn’t do anything special for your birthday, anniversary or other important occasion.

9. She doesn’t want to talk about plans for the future.

10. She stops sharing news about her day and her life in general.

What Next?

If this list has hit the nail on the head and the signs she doesn’t love you anymore are all ones that you can relate to, then you need to think long and hard about how you want to proceed. If you really and truly believe the relationship is worth saving and are willing to do the work it takes to make things better again, then start by thinking about what role you played in this whole mess. Did you stop showing her the love and affection you used to? It’s not uncommon to take a woman for granted after you’ve been together for a while. Maybe you’ve been letting your work stress interfere with your mood when you’re with her, making you a lot less fun to be around. It’s possible that your actions, intentional or not, were part of the problem that led her to this point.

Start trying to rectify things once you’ve identified what you may have been doing wrong and let her know that you see your mistakes and want to do your part to make it up to her. Talk to her about the way she’s been treating you and the signs she’s doesn’t love you anymore and try to get to the bottom of what else may be going on, such as stress or emotional problems or maybe even another guy. Something like Magic of Making Up can help you get the answers you need, help you get some clarity so you know if a relationship is worth saving and even show you what to do to get her to love you again.

Sometimes it can be hard to see that he’s slipping away or losing interest. It can be that it is happening so gradually that you don’t really see it right away or that you’re so in love that you simply don’t want to see what is happening. For a lot of women it begins with a feeling that something isn’t quite right that nags at them from within. Take a look at this list of signs he doesn’t love you anymore and see if any resonate with you. This just may confirm what you’ve been suspecting—fearing—all along.

1. You feel like you do more in the relationship and put in more effort than he does.

2. He doesn’t show you the same affection he once did.

3. He wants sex less than before and when you do have sex you feel rushed and disconnected.

4. He keeps himself busy with anything and everything instead of spending time with you.

5. He doesn’t want to make any long term plans or major decisions that involve you or the family.

6. He doesn’t seem at all affected when you’re upset or feeling down.

7. He never seems happy to see you anymore.

8. He has started keeping secrets and has become more guarded.

9. He has little to no interest in your life and the things that you do.

10. He doesn’t do anything to change what’s wrong in the relationship after you have talked about it.

Do any of the signs listed above seem familiar? If you stop to think about your own feelings and listen to your instincts then you wouldn’t even need to be shown the signs he doesn’t love you anymore. If you often find yourself worried that you’re on the verge of losing him, then I hate to tell you, but you probably are.

What Next?

Now that you have managed to confirm that he may not love you anymore, it’s time to decide what you want to do about it? If there has been any kind of lack of respect or any type of abusive behavior, then you need to cut your losses and let him go so that you can be free to find a man who loves you back. If on the other hand you think that the relationship is worth salvaging and know that your own behaviour and mistakes have played a part in getting to this point, then you need to get some help in how to get things back on track.

If you know where you’ve gone wrong, then fix it. If you think the situation is beyond that or too complex to simply just talk it out, then consider something like Magic of Making Up which will give you step by step advice on how to fix things even after being given all the signs he doesn’t love you anymore.