We have learned that the breakdown of a relationship is the time to reflect and change. We know that we should behave with dignity and keep certain feelings and emotions to ourselves when they are deemed inappropriate to get out in public places. We also know that we should publicly wish our exes well to show that we are the more mature party. We also know that crying uncontrollably is something that is best left to the pillow at night, and screaming drunks are not a good look.
It’s funny though – we all know how we SHOULD react once a relationship has broken down, but how many of us actually behave in the correct manner? In fact, what is the correct manner?
You shouldn’t stand outside of your ex’s window at night singing, drunk. Remember that episode of Sex and the City where Carrie’s recovering alcoholic becomes addicted to sex with her and she has to part ways? He embarrassed himself and her with his behavior. That is a classic example of how not to react. It doesn’t have to be outside her window either. It might even be worth you not hitting the drink for a while. Seeing her inside the club dancing with another guy is going to get you in a fight, (also not acceptable breakup behavior) and seeing her outside with the girls is going to result with you screaming the entire neighborhood down with your less than polite description of her sexual performance.
Getting drunk seems to be the modern way of breaking up these days, and although a few beers with your friends drowning your sorrows can help for a little while, getting badgered and making an ass out of yourself is not a good look.
Sleeping around – definite no, no! Do you have any idea how sleazy you are when you do that? You may want to get as many notches in your bedpost as you can, but not only do you look trashy to your ex, you look trashy to the rest of the population as well. You WILL give yourself a bad reputation.
Putting down your ex all around town – definitely not cool. If you ever want to have the chance to reunite with your ex, you DO NOT do this. Again, you will give yourself a bad reputation and no one will want to come near you, and secondly no one would believe the things that you were saying anyway. You were going through a breakup. You probably didn’t mean it.
Keeping their stuff – this is just plain uncomfortable. Give it back or else you will look crazy. Do those old socks really mean that much to you that you would rather look like an idiot than give them back? Technically you are stealing them – this is a breakup, not an episode of Sons of Anarchy.
As Magic of Making Up shows, there are plenty of sides to every breakup. Sleeping around, putting down your ex, getting drunk and crying or shouting at them is just the tip of the iceberg. Perhaps it’s time to investigate further and get some expert advice to help you through your unique situation with a program that gives you that advice in the comfort of your own home.